背景介绍

【背景】

智慧启引：任何时候，都不要带着偏见去看待别人。你可以假设他是友善的，假设他是你的朋友。　你身边的每一个人，都有自己的思维方式、生活方式，不可能全都合你的心意。其实，如果想真心实意地和他人交往，首先要改变的不是别人，应该是你自己。如果你对别人宽容些，你们的关系就自然会好处了。你不喜欢一个人，自然有你的理由，你见不得他身上那些与你不相容的缺点，但是如果换个角度去看，你也会发现对方身上的一些优点。

　　生活就是这样，很多不喜欢做的事情你却不得不去做，比如人际交往中的一些场合，不可避免地要和那些我们不喜欢的人打交道，他们可能是令你讨厌的老板，让你厌恶的同事，或是难缠的朋友，等等，他们可能是任何人，做过任何使你感到厌恶的事情。
　　尽管你看到他们的时候，想离他们越远越好，或是对他们敬而远之，但很多时候，你又不得不和他们合作，离不开他们。甚至有时候为了达到目标，你必须和他们保持和谐的关系。
　　要做到这一点，并不是一件容易的事情。因为与自己喜欢的人交往是人的一种本能，而要与自己不喜欢的人和谐相处，却是一种能力！

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英文原文

【英文原文】

Dear Annie: I am a 24-year-old female and have been friends with "Danielle" for 12 years. In fact, she is the only friend I have. Recently, I expressed some personal frustrations to her about my brother-in-law's lifestyle. Last weekend, he came to visit and was obviously angry with me, but refused to say why. My brother-in-law and Danielle converse often, and I am fairly certain she told him what I said. This isn't the first time Danielle has done spiteful things to me. I have even called some things to her attention, and she apologizes, but nothing changes. In the past, I have overlooked Danielle's underhanded behavior in order to save our friendship. I want to confront her about this latest incident, but don't know how to do it without hurting her emotionally. — Confidences Betrayed in N.C.

Dear N.C.: If this latest incident turns out to be Danielle's fault and you confront her, at best she will follow custom and apologize but change nothing. This is a toxic friendship, where you think it's necessary to appease her every time she hurts you. Apologize to your brother-in-law for whatever you may have done that upset him, and be cordial—nothing more—to Danielle. You need to branch out and find more trustworthy friends.

【词汇】

1.spiteful:怀恨的，恶意的

如：It was spiteful of you to tell him that.
你把那件事情告诉他，说明你是有恶意的。

He made a spiteful comment.
他发表了恶意的评论。

如：She's leaving the company to branch out on her own.
她打算离开这家公司，自己创业。

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